Small things can make a big difference but the question is whether or not we see the change from within or if we experience it personally. Everyone take a voluntary step, a small step which can lead to a massive change for another person, however the problem is that we sometimes do not realise the nature of our actions and therefore we do not realise that a change has been made.
Obviously there is a counter effect as small things can make a big difference seeking the result that is opposite too success, happiness and even affect upon you in person.These small things that many people do is avoid helping older generations pick up a piece of paper or walking stick; in order to avoid this they would simply walk around them and blank it out. Little things such as lending someone a couple penny or donating to charity, people avoid these why? We are not asking for £100 but just a few penny. A simple Smile can make a difference, it can make a big difference. A smile to me is stress free, a sign of happiness and enjoyment, a chance to relax yourself and the main thing is that it cheers you up.
One small thing that has happened this week has made a diffrence, a difference that made everything worse.
I have a family business, we hired a worker who came from China and has been working here for a total of 13 years I will call him Y. He's a good worker but the only problem was that he turn to money as his main priority, selfish and self centred. He does not buy his own food but taked it from our storage, my dad is quite soft hearted so he allowed it. He lives up in the flat where he paid no rent, therefore my mum asked him for rent. the worst part was that when he was working for my auntie, she paid all his bills and even bought him food for breakfast every morning even on days off. She was pretty scared of him, even as a worker he would shout at her, leave hours before closing time. The flat he lives in belongs to us, but because his wife and daughter came over he forbids anyone to go up there except when my dad took over. His daughter attended college for three years doing english, she has not been back as she is 19 and will have to start paying therefore she stay home everyday instead. His wife had to take a test in order to stay in England, but she did not. Instead, Y paid someone to sit the test for her and we all know that is illegal.
Enough said, there is not much I can say about Y, from the details I have given we can tell that he is not loyal or friendly. Just this week, probably on Saturday night or early Sunday he left without notice and without say. He moved his belongings, his daughter and wife out and dissapeared. The only place I know they would go is back to China, but the worst comes to worst is that he has ditched all bills including phone bill and left many banks supplying him with a overdraft. He cleared all his money so that none of the comapnies will be able to recive the credit he owes, if he gets caught he will be jailed and nit just himself as this can be catergorised as fraud.
This small thing of him leaving have left my parents working harder, I will try my best to take on whatever I can but I also have the side of University on my shoulders. It is difficult, I get tired too but I do not want my mum and dad to work too hard. They have worked long enough.
I personally take on a lot of things, during work I would do everything even if I am tired but this avoids my mum doing it and I let her relax more, then I feel much better about myself. I make a effort to go out and meet up with my friends even if I do not feel the mood to do so, This makes them happy, keeps us in contact and friendship link will then grow much stronger. I drive my mum round to town and places she likes just to keep her occupied, even if I do find these places boring. Buying random gifts for friends and family just for no apparent reason. All these little things can make a big difference, we may not notice the change but it has happened, the effort we put into the things that we do can make others more smile. Taking one step further, one small step that makes everyone you know more happy, living each day more freely and more relaxed.
The main thing that I take on is University, I actually do not like it one bit if I am being Honest. But in my days where can you go if you do not have a qualification? The course I take is not the most ideal, I wanted to change and I still do, the reason for me staying is that I want to complete the course and get a decent job. Decent enough to allow my parents to retire, I do not mind taking on stress or work loads. If I put my mind to it I can achieve the target I wish for. However, the strategy I am using is not really working very well. I do not have luck on my side so I have to work much harder.
Exams are the worst, I revise, But is it enough. I get nervous and I get scared, I can be optimistic by mouth and pessimistic by heart. This is to show my friends that I have confidence. So far I have not failed anything, but I have realised that my scores are decreasing. This could be due to my ability to intake information is much slower then others, I don't really know. But Then again I don't even know if I am trying my best by giving my All. I revise more then ususal which is the one step I have taken further, Whether it will make a difference we will have to wait and see.
Thursday, 29 April 2010
Tuesday, 27 April 2010
Judging A Book By Its' Cover.
I don't know why I do this all the time, But it is difficult not to.
Everyone does it.
They look at you and then judge you by the image that you present yourself in.
It could be the human instinct in trying to seek people who fit their levels, people who fit their category and those who fit their personality. I ponder the fact that it is highly important that a person fits your personality, if not it would be difficult to get along. However, how can we tell by a quick glance.
Isn't it a bit unfair as you could misjudge.
Seeing a person once and judging is one thing I would like to avoid in future, as those you misjudge could be those you get along with most however false that sounds.
But it is life. We should know a whole load of different people, and judging is not the way to go.
Everyone does it.
They look at you and then judge you by the image that you present yourself in.
It could be the human instinct in trying to seek people who fit their levels, people who fit their category and those who fit their personality. I ponder the fact that it is highly important that a person fits your personality, if not it would be difficult to get along. However, how can we tell by a quick glance.
Isn't it a bit unfair as you could misjudge.
Seeing a person once and judging is one thing I would like to avoid in future, as those you misjudge could be those you get along with most however false that sounds.
But it is life. We should know a whole load of different people, and judging is not the way to go.
Monday, 26 April 2010
Keeping Afloat....
It is difficult to keep afloat,
Keeping everything balanced in life is one major aspect of life that no one in the world can fulfil.
Life is not perfect
Life cannot be the way you wish it to become,
From this you have to make your life float the way you want......
In times when you feel that everything is starting to crack, split and gradually fall apart,
Times when you just cannot hold on to all you have,
What would you do?
How would you overcome this?
Keeping everything balanced in life is one major aspect of life that no one in the world can fulfil.
Life is not perfect
Life cannot be the way you wish it to become,
From this you have to make your life float the way you want......
In times when you feel that everything is starting to crack, split and gradually fall apart,
Times when you just cannot hold on to all you have,
What would you do?
How would you overcome this?
Saturday, 10 April 2010
The Ugly Side
Everyone is capable of unleashing a side where they can hurt a person mentally or physically.
They find the weak spot of their opponenet and go in for the kill not thinking about the consequence that it can cause at the end due to the naturalness of quick thinking. What these people do not understand is the feeling of the opposite person, the things said or done can hurt them in many ways and it is not just physical contact that can damage people's self esteem, confidence which can affect their future actions in life.
There were a pair if siblings having an argument, I will call them A and B. A threw a punch at B and in return B said to A that "This is why you have no friends". A was not very good at making friends, therefore A did not have many, this really hurt A from deep down and from that A threw B another punch. But, I actually think B deserves that last punch since B knows that A has a weak point in making friends. B started feeling guilty even though there was no way of withdrawing what has been said.
To be honest the character B in the story is Me. I do not always loose my temper and turn to my ugly side in order to win an argument, even if I am not a calm person I do not usually turn to my Ugly Side. I think that when my brother threw the first punch at me , I just lost it and that is what came to my mind straight away. I do feel terrible, but as stubborn as I am; I can only admit it on here as facing others I would deny my guilt.
It is difficult to fix when you are in the position that I am in, the only thing that I could think of is to let it all blow over and this will be the past, letting all by gone be by gones......
It was also difficult for my parents as they have to stand in between us in hope to come to a settlement. Arguments between siblings can affect parents even deeper then the person themselves. They worry a lot about us, not just about arguments but future events such as passing exams to graduation, whether we can get a job, whether we will get married, and if we get married is that person nice, will they be nice to you, then they worry about you trying to finance your own family.
Parents worry the most about siblings, they wan siblings to get a long even if they are non existence to the earth, It is hard to say or even think that far ahead but that is what they want and we should all try our best to give them what they want.
A lot of people say to me that not just the parent and children's realtionship is unconditional, but brothers and sisters. This may be difficult to believe, but in a way it is true. We fight, we argue, we pass blames but after that we get along in many ways, and if you do not get along with them you would still worry about them whether you are the younger or older sibling.
Human life is fragile, when you hurt them physically, mentally or emotionally this can trigger problems if that person cannot cope. I know this well.....
We should learn to control our ugly side as it can lead to greater costs, we may not understand unless we put ourselves in the position of the other person. Even if we know the weak spot of a certain person, we should never use this to gain anything - The guilt caused can be too hard for anyone to take in.
To be honest, I still feel really bad and terrible about unleashing my Ugly Side during the argument to day and this will not be forgotten in future either. I WILL remember this for a very long time as well. I do not know why, but the last time I faced my Ugly side I still remember it and I do not want to mention what it was because it was horrible and rather evil figure of speech used.
I will from now on try to keep calm, or use some other argumental phrases to use - avoiding the UGLY SIDE is what I will do for the remaning of my time. But as I said at the beggining, it is usually things you do ro say straight of the top of your head, therefore it is hard to control.
BUT I HAVE TO TRY.
They find the weak spot of their opponenet and go in for the kill not thinking about the consequence that it can cause at the end due to the naturalness of quick thinking. What these people do not understand is the feeling of the opposite person, the things said or done can hurt them in many ways and it is not just physical contact that can damage people's self esteem, confidence which can affect their future actions in life.
There were a pair if siblings having an argument, I will call them A and B. A threw a punch at B and in return B said to A that "This is why you have no friends". A was not very good at making friends, therefore A did not have many, this really hurt A from deep down and from that A threw B another punch. But, I actually think B deserves that last punch since B knows that A has a weak point in making friends. B started feeling guilty even though there was no way of withdrawing what has been said.
To be honest the character B in the story is Me. I do not always loose my temper and turn to my ugly side in order to win an argument, even if I am not a calm person I do not usually turn to my Ugly Side. I think that when my brother threw the first punch at me , I just lost it and that is what came to my mind straight away. I do feel terrible, but as stubborn as I am; I can only admit it on here as facing others I would deny my guilt.
It is difficult to fix when you are in the position that I am in, the only thing that I could think of is to let it all blow over and this will be the past, letting all by gone be by gones......
It was also difficult for my parents as they have to stand in between us in hope to come to a settlement. Arguments between siblings can affect parents even deeper then the person themselves. They worry a lot about us, not just about arguments but future events such as passing exams to graduation, whether we can get a job, whether we will get married, and if we get married is that person nice, will they be nice to you, then they worry about you trying to finance your own family.
Parents worry the most about siblings, they wan siblings to get a long even if they are non existence to the earth, It is hard to say or even think that far ahead but that is what they want and we should all try our best to give them what they want.
A lot of people say to me that not just the parent and children's realtionship is unconditional, but brothers and sisters. This may be difficult to believe, but in a way it is true. We fight, we argue, we pass blames but after that we get along in many ways, and if you do not get along with them you would still worry about them whether you are the younger or older sibling.
Human life is fragile, when you hurt them physically, mentally or emotionally this can trigger problems if that person cannot cope. I know this well.....
We should learn to control our ugly side as it can lead to greater costs, we may not understand unless we put ourselves in the position of the other person. Even if we know the weak spot of a certain person, we should never use this to gain anything - The guilt caused can be too hard for anyone to take in.
To be honest, I still feel really bad and terrible about unleashing my Ugly Side during the argument to day and this will not be forgotten in future either. I WILL remember this for a very long time as well. I do not know why, but the last time I faced my Ugly side I still remember it and I do not want to mention what it was because it was horrible and rather evil figure of speech used.
I will from now on try to keep calm, or use some other argumental phrases to use - avoiding the UGLY SIDE is what I will do for the remaning of my time. But as I said at the beggining, it is usually things you do ro say straight of the top of your head, therefore it is hard to control.
BUT I HAVE TO TRY.
Sunday, 4 April 2010
New Smile.....
"When Every Person Smiles, It Makes The World A More Beautiful Place"
A Smile shows expression.
Shows Happiness,
Shows Enjoyment.
Show the person that you are and affects your mood...
So Smiling means that you are happy, which puts you in a good mood right?
The special thing about a Smile is that you can make one everyday and Smiling can also make others Smile.
A Smile can be passed around to ecery person you see, a simple look at them or you when they Smile can make your day. It can relieve the stress your under or even allow you resolve a problem that you may be facing. A Smile is a very important expression, it is the one that people look for the most and it should be the one that everyone should be using the most. This Special Smile should never be upside down and should also be seen on your face everyday, it shows character and reflect your personality as every Smile is a different Smile.
Emotions can affect your mood, therefore affecting the people around you. We live everyday as they pass, so why not live through them being happy and Smile for each?....
There are many times that we feel down and do not have the courage to live up to it.....So think of a special memory that made you Smile, Made you laugh. And gradually your cheeks will pull your lips into a Smile, not by force but naturally. This will lighten up those gloomy days. Put the past behind and Smile towards the future.
But...
The most important thing about the Smile is that everyone has a unique Smile, No matter who you are , what you wear everyday we all show a New Smile. Each Smile is different from the previous because there are different reasons to the why you Smile.
No matter what you wear, what class you are, what Ethnicity, race, age, or gender we all have a Smile that belongs to ourselves and we have soul control over this special gift..
A New Smile give us New Hope Everyday.